What happened to the either or?

More and more these days it seems that there is no longer a gray area for certain issues – you either like something or don’t, you either are for someone or you’re not, etc. I’m not talking about if you either love Family Guy or you don’t (a discussion my boyfriend and I have had), or if you eat cake brownes or fudge only (I prefer fudge but I won’t turn down any kind of brownie).

But here’s what I’m seeing a lot of these days. Either you don’t support large business and “corporate” or you do. Either you are feminist or you’re not. You’re liberal or you’re not. Blah blah blah. And one would think, “Well, there are still some gray areas in there, right?” No one is perfectly for one thing or not. But I feel that lately people are judging you so much more on a holistic level rather than listening to your argument or letting something slide here and there than they used to. It’s so much to the point where you can’t even have a normal conversation without some sort of preaching and ideology as an interruption.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m all up for debate. And I also think that I’m a feminist, and I’m environmentally-friendly, and I’m pretty tolerant of religion, race, etc. But some people – it’s like you say ONE thing and the next thing you know, you’re a hater.

I ask you this? Can I still watch and enjoy shows like Leave it to Beaver and be a feminist? Can I make an observation about someone’s looks or religion and still be tolerant and accepting? Can I still eat processed foods but be considered friendly to local farmers because I still buy a lot of stuff at the farmer’s market? Can I still make a pit-stop at a Wal-mart because it the cheapest (insert product here) and was the only store around despite the fact that they pay low wages?

Bottom line: Let people be as much of one thing or not as they want. Not everyone has to be an all out environmentalist, and all out feminist, or an all out (insert label here). I say I’ll just be me, and if you want to buy Starbucks and shop at Costco and watch Disney and movies that have stereotypes, then DO IT. If everyone was the perfect person and the perfect do-gooder, wouldn’t that be boring?? And then there would be no debate, right?

Waders and weddings

Yesterday was our service day for UNF.  We went to the Kennilworth Aquatic Gardens in SE DC and split up to do various “yard work” tasks. My group got to muck around in the ponds raking out lily pads. We got to wear these awesome waders with boots attached. Of course there were no smaller sizes than 7s or 8s, and my teammates quickly took those. So I ended up with this ginormous waders on, maybe a size 12. It was a sight to see. It was cool work though. I wish I had a picture, but I’m sure there will be some later to add. After the work, we had BBQ, and then some of us went out for drinks for several hours.

Last weekend was my friend Ankur’s Indian wedding. It was really amazing to be a part of that, and just cool to see the various traditions and how different it all is from the Christian weddings I’ve been to over the years. The outfits were amazing, so was the food, and the dancing was a blast. My friends and I were all honored to have been guests at such a special occasion.

Let’s see, what else? Not too much. I’m going home in a few weeks, so I’m definitely getting excited to see my parents and dogs again. Mom goes to Germany on business again in June, and I wish I could join, but that’s the same time Dan comes into town, so I have to pass again. But, when I go home in August for a week, we’re planning on heading to Chicago, so hopefully we’ll catch some games at Wrigley and enjoy the city together. We haven’t really done a family vacation in quite some time, so that would be nice.

I’m also keeping a food diary so that I can really see what I’m taking in. No calorie counting or anything extreme, just literally writing down everything I’m eating. I think it’s much easier that way to see what can be cut out and where I’m doing a good job. Been trying to have more intense workouts too. Missed a couple days this week, but had started off well, so I continued that today with a pretty vigorous workout. The weather has been so off and on, so it’s been difficult to run outside, so it was back to the gym for these last few weeks. I just hope that we have some nice spring weather for awhile again before 90 degrees hits us again like it did last week. That was intense. I have found several good trails around my neighborhood though, so I know that even when it’s sweltering this summer, I’ll be able to go on the shaded trails. I also look forward to busting out the tennis racket again, so I’m glad I get to play with Dan like we did last summer.

Earlier this week, I got into a ridiculous argument with a couple of cousins on Facebook about politics. It started from nothing and then exploded in my face, and it made me remember why I should never, ever ever discuss any form of government, policy or politics with my very very conservative family. It was absolutely ridiculous the things that were said, and I was not only angry, but ashamed. But, I guess lesson learned. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me multiple times, and I’m so done, haha. I guess I have to learn that one the hard way a few times before I finally get it. But now I do. I am grateful that although my boyfriend is a Republican, that he is mature and reasonable when we debate.