Are you standing in the way of your happiness?


True Happiness

There are the people that are always happy, no matter what. They never seem to get angry, frustrated, sad, or down about anything. They may be standing in the middle of a hurricane, with no clothes on, and no one offering them help, and they’d still find something positive to say. It’s this guy, which Gallup says is the happiest guy in the country.

Then there are most of us, who have our happy days, sad days, and maybe some roller coaster days where we swing from highs and lows and in-betweens in the normal course of our lives as we journey through jobs, significant others, loves and losses — it’s all a part of life.

And then there the people who always seem to be unhappy, no matter what. They are called Debbie Downers, Party Poopers, sour-faces, etc. Sometimes they annoy us, but most of the time, at least for me, they make me sad, because I know that they’re the only ones standing in the way of their own happiness.

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Keeping the “Happy” in Happy New Year


You get off the metro, walk into the office, or go into Starbuck’s, and everyone is saying it: Happy New Year! We all are walking around for the first week or two with a glow, fresh from extended holidays, time off, stuffed with good food, and anxious to fulfill our resolutions and achieve our goals for the year.

But before you know it, the little stuff can get to us, dampening that happy feeling that comes with a new year: the line at Starbuck’s is too long or they screw up your order, the metro is delayed, and your to-do list at work is already overwhelming.

So how do we keep the “happy” throughout the year, long past the requisite greetings that come with the first week of January?

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The things we need to hear

If you take a minute and think about all of the everyday phrases uttered by the people in your life, they might appear ordinary and lack luster. Good morning, good night, have a great weekend, I miss you, I love you, great job, congratulations, thanks, you’re amazing…it can go on and on.  One might think that the person who says all these things might not mean them the way they did the first few times. Or that the person who hears them doesn’t need to hear them so much anymore.

But the power of positive words, and the meaning behind repetition, emphasis, and affirmation of even a simple, maybe obvious statement, is sometimes beyond words.

In life, there are so many things that cause us stress, concern, and fuel intense emotions. It might be a life change, an overwhelming situation at work, or relationship issues. It may be our health, bad weather (multiple snowstorms, anyone?), or financial issues.

But imagine in the midst of all your overwhelming moments at work, you get some simple praise from a coworker or your boss, for something you wouldn’t have even thought worthy. Or maybe your best friend reminds you that he or she is here for you through your fights with your significant other – here whether you need her or not. And what if just when you thought that maybe a relationship was perhaps at a stopping point and that it is all for naught, your person, your other half, lays out their insecurities for you — and then declares that it’s all worth it to be with you.

The things we need to hear are often simple, inelegant — things we already know. But no matter how many times we’ve heard them, no matter how it’s said, they have the power to be mood-changing, day-changing, life-changing — if we let them.